“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven” (Ecclesiastes 3:1). There is a time to speak, and a time not to speak. Happy is the person who can discern between the two. In many cases silence is golden. Therefore, anything we say will only hinder the flow of what God wants to do, so it is best to: “Stop talking and pray”
Esther, formerly (Hadassah), Queen to king Ahasuerus, fasted and prayed and sought God’s timing before she approached her husband about a very important matter. Was she upset about what was happening to her people? Of course, she was. There was a lot at stake and she knew it. She didn’t run in and start arguing. Rather, she prayed first and then ministered to him in love, while God prepared his heart. The Lord will always give us the right words to say, and show us when to say them if we ask Him. Timing is everything.
I have known people who never miss a chance to use the excuse of “just being honest” to devastate others with their words. The Bible says: “A fool vents all his feelings, but a wise man holds them back” (Proverbs 29:11). In other words, it is foolish to share every feeling and thought. Being honest doesn’t mean you have to be completely frank in your every comment.
If you do have to say words that are hard to hear, ask God to help you discern when the person would be most open to hearing them. Pray for the right words and for the person’s heart to be totally receptive. I know that’s hard to do when you have a few choice words you are dying to let loose. But hard as it may seem, it is best to let God hear them first so He can temper them with His Spirit. This is especially true when talking has ceased altogether and shouting becomes the norm, and every word brings more pain…
It is time to stop talking and pray.